How To Have A Negative Attitude

Negative AttitudeHave you ever wondered why a child, when told not to do something, turns around and does just that? You might say, “don’t touch that lamp,” only to find the child with their hands all over the lamp just moments later! It doesn’t make any sense!!! Or does it? In actuality, the child doesn’t likely have a negative attitude. As it turns out, the human subconscious – in kids and adults – works less intuitively than we might think. Here’s how to use it to our advantage.

When the aforementioned child hears “don’t touch that lamp,” the words that actually register are “touch that lamp”. It’s just the natural part of our psyche at work here. It seems to want to choose to do the opposite of what it hears. Is this reactance? Anticonformity? It’s probably elements of both and maybe other labeled psychological theories but the fact of the matter is it’s real. Ask any parent.

David Wood, a mentor that I’ve learned from through MLSP, said on a webinar training call last night, “You can’t not think about what you don’t want to think about without thinking about it.” Think about it! :-) Let’s call it the “pink elephant theory”. If I told you not to think about a pink elephant, before you know it, you’re thinking about a pink elephant! You can’t not think about the pink elephant, even when told not to think about the pink elephant, without thinking about the pink elephant. In fact, you have a mental image of a pink elephant right now! Perhaps it’s even complete with a moving trunk and ears, maybe some noise, and you might even be contemplating what shade of pink! Amazing, and I specifically told you not to think about it!

So what does this have to do with a negative attitude?

Negative Attitude TurnaroundIf you read my previous blog, Change Your Thinking, Change Your attitude, recalibrate your thoughts and words such that you can benefit from the words you’re saying and thinking. You may find an abundance of positivity coming your way!

Best to you!
– Drew

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  • Mary Jane Harlan June 4, 2010 at 2:56 pm

    Great tip
    All about the basics of NLP
    Reframing our thoughts can change our life

  • Shawn Robinson June 4, 2010 at 5:51 pm

    Drew, great article, I retweeted it. I guess that is what the law of attraction is all about right, focus on what you want and not on what you don't…. and do the work toward you goal.

    • Drew Berman December 16, 2010 at 2:45 pm

      You bet it is Shawn! Thanks for the retweet! Hope to talk soon!

  • Seth Lefferts June 9, 2010 at 12:23 pm

    A dream will always stay just a dream until you place the power of positive thinking behind it. Taking steps to making a dream a reality, even in the face of impossibility, can turn the impossible into the possible – the power of positive thinking and taking action.

    Thank you, Drew, for the fun and informative point of view.

    • Drew Berman December 16, 2010 at 2:44 pm

      Words – whether spoken or thought – are powerful! Use them wisely, Seth!

  • Dave July 1, 2010 at 3:38 pm

    Hey Drew! I found the title of this one – how to have a negative attitude – a little misleading! I mean, heck, you always distill the positive in EVERYTHING! But the reality is that sometimes things in life aren't optimal. That's ok and I understand that how I react to these suboptimal things is key! This post, however, takes that notion and further tunes it by encouraging the use of words to positively affect my reaction, perspective, and attitude. Dude, that's awesome! Thanks!

    • Drew Berman December 16, 2010 at 2:43 pm

      Thanks, Dave. You really understood what I was shooting for here with the play on words! Very powerful!